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[–]h8speech 71 points72 points  (39 children)

Pretty sure /r/relationship_advice is trending because of this post by an absolute creeper. Post is deleted, original text here.

He then went on to post this, this, this etc. Again, original text can be found in the comments.

Absolutely disgusting human being. I just hope we don't end up hearing about a 32 year old New York man kidnapping his work colleague.

(edit: fixed last link. Also, here's the Bestof thread.)

[–]InspectorMendel 33 points34 points  (7 children)


[–]h8speech 25 points26 points  (4 children)

Yeah, pretty much. I'm pretty much certain he's not a troll, because after /r/relationship_advice tore him a new one, he actually bothered to take his OP and edit it to remove all the creepiest bits before he posted it in /r/relationships. A troll wouldn't remove the creepy bits.

[–]Throwawayjust_incase 9 points10 points  (2 children)

[–]clipeuh 14 points15 points  (1 child)

skrinkles said: ↑ Uh you sound like the creep, not the bf.

For trying to help empower my colleague?

This guy respects women.

[–]insert_name_here 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The "male feminist ally turns out to be a creeper/harasser" is the "family values politician turns out to be gay" for millenials.

-Patton Oswalt

[–]Computermaster 2 points3 points  (1 child)


[–]Kazzack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where'd you get those peepers?

[–]Respectfullyyours[🍰] 9 points10 points  (7 children)

It reads like a fiction-writing assignment from the point-of-view of an unaware creeper.

Also what's the difference between /r/relationships and /r/relationship_advice?

[–]theg721 4 points5 points  (5 children)

I think /r/relationship_advice used to be a joke/troll sub, and /r/relationships has always been as it is. Then /r/relationship_advice became more of a serious, genuine source of advice over time for whatever reason, and now we have two subs doing the same thing ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[–]live_wire_ 3 points4 points  (4 children)

/r/relationship_advice became more of a serious, genuine source of advice

lol no

[–]christoskal 4 points5 points  (3 children)

It was, for a while.

Now it has turned into a weird circlejerk (on the popular threads, some are cool while new) but for a while it was pretty damn good.

[–]eganist 1 point2 points  (2 children)

You're encouraged to report comments which don't contribute. Every once in a while I'll see a shitty theme emerge and will pin a notice discouraging or just outright threatening bans for deliberately harmful words.


[–]christoskal 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It's not rule-breaking comments that I have an issue with, it's the fact that the community seems to have moved to a more of a "yep, shit's dead" way of looking at things instead of "let's see if we can make it work somehow" one that I remember from my previous days lurking there. I can't just report things I disagree with.

Don't take my criticism too seriously though, it's not like you can force the community to follow the way I would like it to be and I am not even an active member there either so even the criticism itself should be taken with a grain of salt.

[–]eganist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So part of the "shit's dead" mentality stems from confirmation bias arising from the idea that "if you're submitting to /r/relationship_advice, things are already sour". If we have people who recognize and buck the trend with their comments, it can change the tide.

That's what I try to do in my replies, anyway. E.g. https://polar-ocean-4195.herokuapp.com/7777772e7265646469742e636f6d/r/relationship_advice/comments/6n1vqu/its_my_birthday_and_husband_doesnt_cqre/dk6p5rg/?context=3

[–]h8speech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could be legit, I've known some people who were messed up enough to would say stuff like this unironically

No idea what the difference is.

[–]Cloveny 3 points4 points  (3 children)

That was a really fun read, are there any other posts like this? OP not realising he's the abusive one.

[–]h8speech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably, but I can't think of any off the top of my head. There's this (In which OP thinks there is a conspiracy; there isn't. Update post here.)

And there's also this, from a guy who does appear to know that he is creepy and "sick" but continues to obsess over a girl.

Like I said, there probably is similar content that I'm not remembering. Any of the drama communities (/r/drama, /r/jesuschristreddit, /r/subredditdrama etc) will probably have more.

[–]Skirtz 2 points3 points  (2 children)

What'd it say? It's been deleted :(

[–]h8speech 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the first post? The /r/relationship_advice one? Mirrored here :)

[–]t0mmy9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are all still in Google cache

link 1 link2

[–]HumanToaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like I need a shower...

[–]yenwood 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Your last two links are the same and all these posts are deleted

[–]h8speech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your last two links are the same

True, I'll go find the other one I meant to post

all these posts are deleted

They pretty much all have mirrors of the OP in the comments. For example, the first link has the OP mirrored here.

[–]tbe_dentist 25 points26 points  (8 children)

/r/lildicky is that a support group?

[–]better_bot 25 points26 points  (7 children)

You're thinking of /r/incels.

[–]Muffinator4 9 points10 points  (3 children)

idk, the guy on there who was driving nails through his penis seemed to have a decent size.

[–]WhinyTortoise 4 points5 points  (2 children)

I'm scared, but... link?

[–]Muffinator4 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Don't say I didn't warn you (NSFW Obviously...)

[–]PicturElements 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, there's a new fetish.

is joke

[–]Soarel2 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm convinced /r/incels is a subreddit inhabited by Ferengi.

[–]dr_lazerhands 2 points3 points  (0 children)

-teeth scraping sound-


[–]progressivemedialist 59 points60 points  (14 children)

/r/lildicky or /r/IdontusuallylistentohiphopbutIlovecornyuppermiddleclassrappers

[–]Deerscicle 41 points42 points  (12 children)

As opposed to /r/hiphopheads where it's a bunch of upper middle class white dudes pretending to be black.

[–]ChiefEagle 28 points29 points  (10 children)

[–]WaveElixir 34 points35 points  (8 children)

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (5 children)

Yes, I Agree.

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[–]WaveElixir 8 points9 points  (3 children)

Probably had something to do with drug possession. Apparently he got caught with LSD at school.

[–]awesomemanftw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how do you get caught with lsd, it's like the easiest drug to conceal, with no odor.

[–]ilovethosedogs 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Who the fuck gets caught with LSD? It's like almost literally untraceable, unless you're Walter White and have like entire vials of it.

[–]Nebula153 26 points27 points  (1 child)

What a legend

[–]rhetoricjams 4 points5 points  (0 children)

what a time to be alive

[–]Soarel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my nathan

[–]Meritania 1 point2 points  (0 children)

init my fine governor

[–]sleepsholymountain 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I like that /r/relationship_advice is trending because a recent shitshow attracted a bunch of people who like to watch trainwrecks, not because people are actually interested in giving relationship advice.

[–]sandratcellar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What other reason is there to subscribe to those subreddits? It's like watching reality TV; you want to see other people's messed up lives.

[–]whyyesthat 21 points22 points  (24 children)

Nice to see /r/gallifrey trending instead of /r/doctorwho. It's by far the better sub.

[–]Deerscicle 17 points18 points  (22 children)

To say the "whovians" are a perfect example of a toxic fanbase is an understatement. For a lot of TV shows, it'd be nice to be able to talk about the show with people that aren't a part of the established fanbase. Supernatural, Rick & Morty, RWBY, Steven Universe...

[–]CashWho 8 points9 points  (4 children)

Where does this kind of thing come from? I like gallifrey more than DoctorWho but that's just because the fan art and cakes kinda bore me. Whenever there's discussion on either sub, people are mostly respectful to each other.

[–]Bardfinn -1 points0 points  (2 children)

people are mostly respectful

When Missy debuted, /r/doctorwho was filled with shitty misogynists complaining about the Master and Timelords and Men and Why SJWs Gotta Shit Up Our SciFi and the general Vox Day VomitPuppies bullshit.

So I walked away from it.

People I know are good people signed on to the mod team, so I figured it might be worth a second chance.

About a month ago, I made a comment in a post in /r/doctorwho about Capaldi ending his run, that I was excited about the upcoming regeneration being (almost certainly) a woman —

This is a month before it was officially announced, public knowledge — but anyone who cared to see the signs, knew what was happening.

And I was set upon by misogynist trolls downvoting my comment (-17 inside twenty minutes!) and harassing me for simply saying I was excited to see a female regeneration, demanding that I was delusional, and talking shit to me. "That's not possible. Why do you say that?".

So I turned off inbox replies and reported the comments.

A moderator, eight hours later, removes my comment and leaves a mod comment on it that says it was removed for trolling — and a mod comment apparently doesn't respect "disable inbox replies".

My comment was gone, the shitty, misogynist troll comments were still up, and so I wrote their modteam an email expaining my dissatisfaction, that this behaviour was inexcusable to civilised people participating in a discussion, much less moderators of a subreddit.

The poor excuse for nightwatchman who removed my comment and read my compaint wrote me back seven paragraphs telling me that I was to blame for my treatment, daring to express my excitement about a female regeneration.

And this is the culture that subreddit has allowed to flourish, through cultivation.

So, if I were a writer for BBC, or an exec producer for the show, I would be writing a memo for distribution that /r/doctorwho is held by persons hostile to the show and its fans.

[–]Soarel2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why would you even post to /r/doctorwho when /r/gallifrey exists in the first place?

[–]CashWho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds awful and, as someone who's not a part of the mod team, I can't really apologize for that. But do you still have access to the comment? I only ask because I remember a similar situation happening to me during around the time of the s10 Finale and the rude comments were removed and I've seen that happen a lot since then. I'm definitely not saying you're experience didn't happen, just that it's more of an anomaly than a normal occurrence over there.

[–]Turtle_78 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It must be an American thing, but I'm not sure why.

[–]WantDebianThanks 7 points8 points  (2 children)

I wasn't really into 11 so I went to a subreddit about the show to try to figure out why he was so popular.

Jesus fucking Christ, never again

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

What show is 11? Couldn't find it.

[–]Nebula153 7 points8 points  (12 children)

/r/RWBY is legitimately one of the nicest subreddits I've been to though . It's big, but still kind of small so you can recognize most users on there. I've heard the Tumblr portion is crazy but that goes for everything really.

[–]spiral6 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I've been with r/RWBY since its inception. I've seen the good, the bad and the ugly.

Something always keeps me coming back though. I can't say the same about comment participation.

[–]WolfessStudios 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Blake is sexy

[–]Soarel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neo and Cinder are best girls

[–]Soarel2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The community is really nice, but jesus christ, the mod team there is legit one of the worst I've ever seen both on reddit and online in general. That, and the fact there are problem users whose shitty actions are covered up by the mod team because they're popular.

[–]Throwawayjust_incase 3 points4 points  (7 children)

/r/stevenuniverse is pretty nice, too. We sure love our memes though.

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    [–]the_light_of_dawn 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    I was under the impression that the Steven Universe fanbase was a bit abhorrent and has treated the show's creator like absolute shit, which is ironic given the kid-friendly and endearing nature of the show.

    [–]stoopidemu 4 points5 points  (3 children)

    Only during hiatus.

    [–][deleted]  (2 children)


      [–]stoopidemu 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Who said anything about Tumblr?

      [–]Soarel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Oh shit, I replied to the wrong comment


      [–]BetaHousing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      If you want great discussions on Rick and Morty, I highly recommend you check out /r/c137 for actual Rick and Morty discussion.

      [–]Ask_me_about_WoTMUD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I was so surprised when I read the announcement threads on both subs about the new Doctor. One of em was really interested and full of people fully supporting it, and the other was just hostile at it.

      [–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (4 children)

      Ugh, Lil Dicky.

      [–][deleted]  (3 children)


        [–]Soarel2 2 points3 points  (2 children)

        So Lil Dicky fans are the new Eminem fans?

        [–][deleted]  (1 child)


          [–]Soarel2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Did you read what I said? I said that Little Dicky fans are the new Eminem fans. Nothing about the artists themselves.

          [–]That-Beard 4 points5 points  (2 children)

          My sub is finally trending!

          [–]live_wire_ 11 points12 points  (1 child)

          Write a bloody description for it then! I don't know if I'm walking into a sub about facial hair or the wives of gay men.

          [–]That-Beard -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

          Well it's not exactly mine, but they are my people lol

          [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (3 children)

          No crypto sub? Awe

          [–]awesomemanftw 2 points3 points  (2 children)

          theyre all busy crying right now

          [–]WolfessStudios 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          About what? Wasting money? Lol

          [–]awesomemanftw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          yep lol

          [–]GreatPhail 13 points14 points  (4 children)

          Hmm, /r/gallifrey, I haven't watched Doctor Who in awhile, I wonder why it's trending!

          checks /r/doctorwho

          Ooh, boy...

          [–]AwayNotAFK 11 points12 points  (2 children)

          I dont get it, they all seem supportive of the new doctor choice? do you mean all the fanart and shit?

          [–]Bardfinn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          The comments remaining after most of the moderators wake up and get to their computers are the ones supportive of the choice.

          The ones you can see while the moderators are sleeping — or when specific "moderators" are the only ones on duty — those are the problem.

          [–]BoredOfYou_ 5 points6 points  (1 child)

          Seeing a bit of Lil Dicky hate in this thread. Not a huge fan of him or anything, but why don't you guys like him?

          [–]pinkandpurpleman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Really corny punchline rap like Gambino (or at least he managed to get mostly past this stage) turns a lot of people off. The difference between the two is the respect for the genre Donald has as well as other pioneering artists hes worked with.

          [–]zquest13 2 points3 points  (1 child)

          thought /r/lildicky was going to be about something totally different...

          [–]WolfessStudios -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Hehehe me roo

          [–]Fedorabro69 19 points20 points  (5 children)

          So, it's come to this. The females have invaded our video games, our movies, and now our television shows. What next? will they invade our everyday lives? Can you imagine seeing females at work, on the street, or even in your own home? This is the world we are headed for, the females are not going to stop unless we make a final stand right here and now!

          [–]ThisSeemsToBeAName -3 points-2 points  (4 children)

          Please add a /s at the end if you're being sarcastic.

          [–]Fedorabro69 8 points9 points  (3 children)

          I can't be the only one with recurring nightmares. You know the one: You're snug in the safety of your bed, about to drift peacefully off to sleep. Slowly, the darkness of your room takes on an oppressive physicality, almost like it's alive. you can't breathe. a chill runs down your spine.

          you're not alone, there's something in the room with you....

          You feel its weight sink into your bed as it slides under your covers. A vice-like grip encircles your chest. You can't move your body.

          Terror builds as you turn your head slowly to the side, dreading what you might see....

          It's a FEMALE


          [–]Aameba 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          Another trending subreddits post with a lot of downvotes.